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  • The Old Oak

    The Old Oak

    I’m out here tonight, Brother, sitting under that old oak we planted. Moon’s high, air’s cool, and its branches stretch wider than I remember. Been years, six or maybe seven, since we dug that hole and dropped those roots. Your hands were muddy, my boots caked, laughing over how crooked it stood, betting it wouldn’t last the winter. Look at it now, tall and steady, leaves whispering soft in the breeze, roots deep in this Tennessee soil.

    We didn’t know it then, what it’d mean, what we were starting. Just two brothers, your creek wild, my pine steady, figuring it out. You with that fire in your eyes, pushing me to see bigger, me with my quiet, holding us when the wind blew hard. That day wasn’t just about a tree. It was us, planting something, covenant taking root, God’s hand in the dirt.

    I think about it, how it’s grown, how we’ve grown. Those early nights, your voice spilling dreams, my ears catching every one, talking until the stars faded, building this bond, soul to soul, not knowing it’d stretch like this oak. We’ve weathered storms, rain pounding, your doubts, my stumbles, held tight, covenant didn’t bend, didn’t break, roots went deeper.

    You’ve got that spark, always will, lighting fires in me I didn’t know could burn, pushing me past my still waters. I’ve got the steady, keeping us when your current runs fast, grounding us, God’s gift weaving through. That oak is us, twists and knots, not perfect, stronger for it, standing tall, weathering years, holding ground.

    I see it now, how it stretches beyond us. Kids climb it, ones we don’t know yet, shade for folks we’ll never meet, roots cracking stone, reaching wide, legacy we didn’t plan, God did. You and me, our talks, our fights, our quiet stands, planting something, covenant’s ripple, touching further than we’ll see.

    World’s cold, tries to uproot, lies whispering it don’t matter, but it does. Look at this tree, look at us. God’s growing it through us, past us, steady love, soul fire, covenant’s not small, not fleeting, it’s oak, deep, enduring, gift to us, gift through us.

    Brother, I’m thankful every day for you, for this, for what we’ve planted, roots holding, branches wide, God’s breath in it, legacy living, strong, ours, His.

    Yours, always,
    Josh

  • Sky’s Thread

    Sky’s Thread

    Late night cloaked the forward operating base—stars stabbing sharp over tents and sandbags, a cold wind slicing through cleared rain. Lanterns glowed faint inside canvas, trembling low, yard still—generator coughing near the barracks, a jackal’s howl threading the dark. Bunk five’s flap hung open—lantern flickering shadows—the FOB’s hum dulled, grunts racked or on watch, tension soft post-ridge.

    Jake and Travis sank onto crates outside—mud-streaked, weary—Travis’s bandaged arm propped stiff, aching, Jake beside, rifle leaned close. Breath fogged in the chill—shower’s steam a raw echo, shoulders bare then, jacketed now. Travis shifted, boots scuffing—eyes tracing stars, breath hitching—mud, Jake’s grip, wet shoulders flashing back. Chest tightened—voice rough. “Can’t shake it—you, me—since that first bunk.”

    Jake’s chest clenched, hazel catching lantern glow—Travis’s words slicing a wall since the ridge, warmth flaring he couldn’t dodge. “Yeah,” he said, low—pausing—“It’s there—always been.” Faith surged—bending sharp—Travis’s raw push thawing dad’s chill, a flare he needed. He pulled the canteen—swigged, passed it—fingers brushing Travis’s—a weight settling firm.

    Travis took it, swallowing hard—shower’s jolt humming low. “So what’s this—mud, blood, all of it?” His words cut—trust hot—“Faith’s yours—I’m grabbing at it, slipping some.” Blue-gray locked hazel under stars—wavering faith cracking wider, needing Jake’s steady to hold it.

    Jake’s jaw ticked, eased—“We’re brothers—real, lasts past this.” Faith spilled—firm—“Chaplain’s ‘hold fast’—mine prayed me through—He’s here, Travis, gripping us.” Grin tugged—“You’re clawing it—that’s more’n words.” Steady flared—Travis’s push a lifeline looping back—“Lost dad—thought I’d break. He holds me—you’re proof.”

    Travis leaned back—canteen sloshed, down—exhaling sharp—“Brothers…” Voice wrestled—“Never had it—grabbing it’s shaky.” Smirk flickered—blue-gray searching Jake—“I’m slipping, but damn—‘hold fast’ sticks now.” Trust surged—clawing for Jake’s rock, pull twisting into a line he gripped—“Faith’s alive with you—tethers this mess.”

    Jake’s grin held—“Fighting’s faith—keeps me straight.” Faith glowed—Travis’s raw spark a lifeline both ways—“He’s here—keeps us ‘cause we’re locked, not lone.” Voice fell warm—“Lost dad—broke me ‘til He held. You’re fighting—He’s holding us both.” He paused—eyes lifting to stars—“Let’s pray it.” His voice dropped, simple—potent—“Lord, we’re beat—mud, blood, all this. Hold us fast—Travis’s fight, my steady—keep us Yours. Bind us tight—brothers, not broke. Amen.”

    Travis’s breath hitched—smirk gone—“Amen…” Voice stretched—faith cracking, shaky but real—Jake’s prayer a rock he grabbed, their bond forging tighter under starlit chill—shoulders pressed, steady glowing.

    Eddie’s shout cut faint—“Damn jackal!”—Hensley spat near—“East line’s live”—radio low. FOB slept—Timmy’s boots scuffing, a snore—blind to their crack, lantern weaving it tight. Travis whistled—off-key—Jake’s gaze held—a thread humming as stars glared cold.

    (Chapter from Brothers in Dust. Contact me if you’d like to read the full story).

  • Rewired: A Testimony in Progress

    I don’t know exactly where this road ends. I just know I’m not where I started.

    For most of my life, brotherhood and desire were tangled together—so tightly woven that I couldn’t see where one ended and the other began. The longing I felt for men wasn’t just about attraction—it was deeper, more complicated. A mix of admiration, craving, and something I once thought was awe-inspiring.

    And for a long time, I held onto that. Even after surrendering my life to Christ, even after stepping into a new way of living, a small part of me still wondered: Was this really something to let go of? Or was there a way to keep it, to sanctify it somehow?

    It wasn’t about sex. It was about closeness, belonging. That deep, aching pull toward men. The way it hummed inside me when I felt seen, chosen, wanted.

    And maybe, I thought, that hum wasn’t a distortion. Maybe it was a gift.

    The Truth That Cut Through

    But slowly, steadily, God began rewiring me. Not with a single, dramatic moment, but with truth creeping in like light through cracked blinds—truth I couldn’t unsee.

    The longing wasn’t wrong. But the way it had been shaped in me was.

    What I’d thought was beautiful was actually broken. The love I longed for was real, but the way I sought it had been distorted by wounds, lies, and a world that sexualizes everything it touches.

    And here’s the key realization: That distortion was its own thing. Separate. A counterfeit standing beside the real.

    Two Realities, but One Truth

    I still experience echoes of the old, eroticized fantasy of brotherhood. It hasn’t vanished overnight. It still exists in my mind as its own thing—a leftover framework, a script I once believed in.

    But then there’s something far greater—the actual, real, God-designed brotherhood that has emerged alongside it. And these two things? They are not the same. They exist side by side, but they do not mix.

    The true brotherhood I now know—the bond I have with my brothers in Christ, with men I walk alongside in faith and life—is completely separate from the distortion. That confusion doesn’t exist between us. The old wiring may hum in the background at times, but it has no place in my actual relationships.

    I used to believe my longing for men had to be expressed in a certain way or it would be wasted. Now I see—God wasn’t withholding something from me. He was leading me into something far better.

    Still in the Process

    I’m not fully rewired yet. I still feel the hum sometimes. The old patterns still try to stir.

    But they don’t own me. They don’t define me.

    And more than ever, I trust where this road is leading.

    Because the further I go, the more I see—this longing isn’t meant to be suppressed. It’s meant to be redeemed.

    Not in eroticized connection. Not in longing for a brother to fill something in me.

    But in the kind of pure, deep, Christ-centered brotherhood that was God’s design all along.

    I don’t know exactly what it looks like to be fully on the other side of this process. But I know this:

    I’m getting there.

    And what I’ve already tasted of the real thing? It’s already better than what I thought I wanted.

  • Brother, This is Who You Are

    1. You are a man because God made you one, and He does not make mistakes. (Genesis 1:27, Psalm 139:14)

    2. You are strong—not just in body, but in heart, in mind, in spirit. (1 Corinthians 16:13, Joshua 1:9)

    3. Your manhood is not defined by your skills, interests, or personality—it is defined by God’s design. (1 Samuel 16:7, Isaiah 64:8)

    4. You were made to lead with love, to protect with strength, and to serve with courage. (Ephesians 5:25, Mark 10:45)

    5. You are not alone—you were created for brotherhood, to walk with other men, sharpening and strengthening each other. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, Proverbs 27:17)

    6. You are a warrior in God’s kingdom, equipped to stand firm against the enemy. (Ephesians 6:10-11, 2 Timothy 2:3-4)

    7. Your past does not define your manhood—God does, and He is making you new. (2 Corinthians 5:17, Romans 8:1-2)

    8. You do not need the world’s approval to be a man—you already have your Father’s blessing. (Matthew 3:17, Galatians 1:10)

    9. Your body was made by God and is good, a temple for His Spirit, not for shame. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, Genesis 1:31)

    10. You are called to be bold, to stand firm, to walk in truth, and to live as the man God made you to be. (Micah 6:8, 1 Corinthians 16:13-14)

  • A Quiet Surrender

    Late summer dusk settled over Ted’s porch, golden light stretching shadows long across the boards. Ethan leaned against the railing, watching Ted tinker with a loose step—a nail here, a tap there. The air was warm, still, a quiet Ethan used to fight. Now, with Ted, it felt right.

    Ted reached for his screwdriver, and Ethan passed it without a word. Ted didn’t look up, just nodded slightly. “You’re getting good at that.”

    Ethan smirked. “What, handing you tools?”

    “Readin’ people,” Ted said, tightening the screw. “Not everybody pays attention.”

    Ethan took a sip of water, unsure how to take that. He had been paying attention—to Ted’s steady hands, his plain words, the way he never grasped or rushed. A year ago, silence would’ve driven him nuts. Now, it was where he found himself.

    Ted sat back on his heels, wiping his hands on a rag. Ethan exhaled slowly, watching the trees sway. “You ever think about how things line up?” he asked, quieter than usual.

    Ted tossed the rag aside. “What do you mean?”

    Ethan hesitated. “Like… if I hadn’t come here. If I hadn’t met you. Or if I had, but I wasn’t paying attention.”

    Ted studied him, eyes thoughtful. “You ever hear about Elijah in the cave?”

    Ethan shook his head.

    Ted stretched out his legs, leaning against the railing. “Prophet, scared outta his mind. Runnin’. Thought he was alone, hidin’ in a cave, waitin’ for God to show up big—fire, storm, somethin’ loud.” He glanced at Ethan. “But God wasn’t in any of that.”

    Ethan frowned. “Where was He?”

    “In a whisper,” Ted said, voice soft.

    Ethan sat with that, the words pressing in a way he couldn’t explain. Ted let it linger, then added, “Sometimes we’re so busy lookin’ for answers in the noise, we miss Him whisperin’ the whole time.”

    Ethan swallowed, throat tight. His whole life, he’d seen faith as rules—church on holidays, prayers before meals, a script you followed. It’d never been real. “I didn’t grow up like this,” he said, staring at his glass. “Mom dragged us to church sometimes. We said grace. But it was just… what you did.”

    Ted didn’t speak, just listened.

    “I always thought faith was about following the rules,” Ethan said, a faint laugh escaping. “And I was never good at that.”

    Ted’s voice was steady. “Maybe what you had wasn’t faith.”

    Ethan glanced at him.

    “Maybe it was just religion,” Ted said—not an accusation, an invitation.

    The words hit hard. Ted talked about God like He was here—real, close. Like he wasn’t alone. Something flickered in Ethan’s chest—small, undeniable.

    Ted looked at the sky, last light fading to blue. He exhaled slow, posture relaxed but face soft. Ethan had changed him too—stirred gratitude he hadn’t expected. For his own road through fire. For the whisper that’d reached him. For it reaching Ethan now.

    Ethan’s grip tightened on his glass. “Maybe I was looking for you,” he said, barely above a whisper, then stopped, unsure what he meant.

    Ted turned, meeting his eyes—not surprised, just knowing. “Maybe,” he said simply.Ethan exhaled shakily. For the first time, he didn’t want to run from it—whatever this was. Ted gave a small nod, like he understood. In his heart, he murmured two words: Thank You.

    (Chapter from Narrow Road Together in the Ethan & Ted series. Contact me if you’d like to read the full story)

  • Emotional Dependency vs. Healthy Covenant

    Brotherhood is meant to be deep, real, and lasting—but if we’re not careful, what starts as something good can slip into something unhealthy.

    There’s a fine line between leaning on a brother and needing him to hold you up. Between walking side by side and clinging in a way that weighs you both down.

    The world doesn’t understand this tension. It assumes all deep male love must either be romantic or toxic—but God designed something better, something stronger.

    So how do we know when a brotherhood is covenant—and when it’s crossed into emotional dependency?

    1. Covenant Strengthens—Dependency Drains

    In a healthy brotherhood, both men sharpen each other (Proverbs 27:17). They push each other toward Christ, toward truth, toward growth.

    But in emotional dependency, the relationship becomes one-sided—one man always needing the other to make him feel okay.

    Covenant says, I’ve got your back, but your strength comes from God, not me.
    Dependency says, I can’t stand unless you hold me up.

    Brotherhood should fuel your strength, not replace it.

    2. Covenant Builds on Christ—Dependency Builds on a Person

    A brotherhood built on Christ is unshakable—because its foundation is outside of either man.

    But emotional dependency happens when a man starts making his brother his anchor instead of God. He relies on his presence, his attention, his approval to feel secure.

    Covenant says, You’re my brother, but Jesus is my rock.
    Dependency says, I don’t know who I am without you.

    A healthy brotherhood always points each other back to Christ, not just to each other.

    3. Covenant Respects Space—Dependency Fears Distance

    Brothers in covenant don’t have to be attached at the hip. Their bond isn’t threatened by distance, by life changes, by seasons where they don’t talk as much.

    But emotional dependency creates fear of separation—the belief that if we’re not constantly connected, I’ll lose you.

    Covenant says, I’m with you for life, no matter what.
    Dependency says, I need constant reassurance that you’re still here.

    A strong bond doesn’t demand constant contact—because it trusts the foundation is solid.

    4. Covenant Lets Go When Needed—Dependency Clings Out of Fear

    In true brotherhood, there’s freedom. If God calls one brother into marriage, ministry, a new season of life, the other doesn’t panic or feel abandoned.

    But emotional dependency can lead to resentment if one man starts pulling away—even for the right reasons. It can make a brother feel owned instead of loved.

    Covenant says, No matter where God leads you, our bond is still real.
    Dependency says, If you change, I don’t know who I am anymore.

    Real covenant releases, blesses, and trusts—it never clings out of fear.

    5. Covenant Deepens with Time—Dependency Eventually Breaks

    When a brotherhood is healthy, it grows stronger with time. It weathers storms, it adjusts to life’s changes, and it remains unshaken because it was built on something lasting.

    But emotional dependency eventually collapses under its own weight. It creates pressure, unmet expectations, and resentment when one man can’t be everything the other wants him to be.

    Covenant says, We’ll still be here for each other 20 years from now.
    Dependency says, If this doesn’t stay exactly the same, I don’t know what to do.

    Brotherhood isn’t about holding on too tight—it’s about holding on in the right way.

    The Answer: Bringing It to Christ

    If you’ve ever felt emotional dependency creeping into a friendship, don’t let shame take over. It doesn’t mean your brotherhood isn’t real—it just means it needs re-centering.

    Ask yourself:

    • Am I leaning on my brother more than I’m leaning on Christ?
    • Do I trust this bond, or do I feel like I have to control it?
    • Am I loving him in a way that strengthens both of us, or in a way that puts pressure on him?

    The goal isn’t to detach from brotherhood—it’s to make sure it’s holy, strong, and built to last.

    Because real covenant? It’s not fragile. It doesn’t suffocate. It doesn’t fade. It stands the test of time—not because of need, but because of calling.

  • More, Not Less

    The world says if two men love each other deeply, it must be romantic. That if you feel drawn to a brother, if his presence anchors you, if his friendship stirs something deep—you have to put a label on it that fits the world’s mold.

    But what if that’s a lie?

    What if what you’re feeling isn’t romantic longing, but something even deeper? Something older than time, written into your soul before the world told you what to call it?

    Because brotherhood—true brotherhood—isn’t second place. It’s not a consolation prize.

    It’s God’s design.

    And what He designed? It’s better.

    Not a Limitation—A Gift

    God isn’t holding out on us. He’s not saying, You don’t get to have deep love because you can’t have it like the world does.No—He’s saying, I have something richer for you, something that doesn’t fade, something that won’t leave you emptier than when you started.

    Romance can be good. Marriage is a gift. But brotherhood?

    It’s covenant. It’s lifelong. It’s not built on shifting emotions, but on something solid.

    • A brother isn’t here for what you can give him. He’s here because he’s called to be.
    • A brother doesn’t pull away when attraction shifts, when emotions fade, when life takes a turn. He stays.
    • A brother isn’t a passing season. He’s a constant.

    And that’s what makes brotherhood stronger.

    More Than Skin Deep

    When the world makes love only about physical connection, it shrinks it. It makes it less, not more.

    Because real love between men? It’s found in the way we fight for each other. The way we sharpen each other. The way we carry each other’s burdens—not for a season, but for a lifetime.

    Platonic brotherhood isn’t lacking anything. It’s fuller than the world could ever imagine.

    It’s David and Jonathan, swords drawn for each other.
    It’s Moses and Aaron, holding each other up when the battle raged on.
    It’s Jesus calling His disciples not just servants, but friends (John 15:15).

    That’s what we’re made for.

    Something That Lasts

    Romance can come and go. The rush of feelings, the fire of attraction—it fades like all things do. But a bond forged in covenant? That’s something the years can’t touch.

    God isn’t taking something from you—He’s giving you something better.

    A love that isn’t fragile. A bond that doesn’t waver. A brother who walks with you—not because of emotion, but because of calling.

    And when you lean into that—when you embrace the fullness of what God designed—

    You don’t lose anything.

    You gain everything.

  • What Is Covenant Brotherhood?

    Covenant brotherhood isn’t a new idea. It’s not something we’re inventing or reimagining. It’s something ancient—something God-designed—that’s been largely forgotten.

    For most of history, men understood that they weren’t meant to walk alone. They knew that deep, committed brotherhood was part of what made them strong, part of what formed them into the men they were called to be.

    But somewhere along the way, that got lost. And in its place? A culture that isolates men, weakens bonds, and turns what was once sacred into something either ridiculed, ignored, or distorted.

    It’s time to recover what was lost.

    1. The Definition: What Is Covenant Brotherhood?

    Covenant brotherhood is a lifelong, Christ-centered commitment between men—a bond of loyalty, trust, and love that goes beyond casual friendship. It’s not just about being close—it’s about being bound by something unshakable.

    It’s built on:

    • Commitment – A bond that isn’t dependent on circumstances.
    • Accountability – Brothers sharpen each other and call each other higher.
    • Self-Sacrifice – Covenant isn’t just about receiving; it’s about laying your life down for your brother (John 15:13).
    • Christ at the Center – Without Him, it’s just friendship. With Him, it’s something holy.

    2. The Biblical Foundation of Covenant Brotherhood

    Covenant has been a key theme in God’s design for relationships since the beginning. And in Scripture, we see powerful examples of covenant brotherhood—bonds that went beyond ordinary friendship into something sacred.

    Jonathan and David (1 Samuel 18:1-4)

    • “The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”
    • Jonathan didn’t just befriend David—he entered into covenant with him. He stripped himself of his royal robe and armor, symbolizing a bond of deep trust, loyalty, and sacrifice.

    Jesus and His Disciples (John 15:15)

    • “No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends.”
    • Jesus wasn’t talking about casual friendship. He was establishing a brotherhood, built on commitment, mission, and self-sacrificial love.

    Paul and Timothy (Philippians 2:22)

    • “But you know Timothy’s proven worth, how as a son with a father he has served with me in the gospel.”
    • Paul and Timothy weren’t just teacher and student—they were bonded in deep, spiritual brotherhood, walking side by side in the mission of Christ.

    From the Old Testament to the New, God-ordained brotherhood has always been part of His design—and men throughout history understood this.

    3. The Historical Presence of Covenant Brotherhood

    For centuries, deep male bonds weren’t just accepted—they were celebrated and expected.

    Medieval Blood Brotherhood

    • In many cultures, men formalized their bond through blood covenants, swearing lifelong loyalty to one another.
    • These weren’t secret societies or military pacts—they were chosen families, men who committed to standing by each other in all things.

    Christian Monastic Orders

    • Early monastic communities weren’t just about solitude—they were about brotherhood. Men lived, worked, and prayed together in deep, lifelong commitment.
    • They understood that walking alone wasn’t the way—that holiness was sharpened in community, not isolation.

    Rites of Passage and Male Initiation

    • For most of history, men didn’t enter adulthood alone—they were brought into it by other men through rites of passage.
    • These initiations weren’t just physical—they were relational, bonding men together in shared purpose and responsibility.

    4. The Loss of Covenant Brotherhood in Modern Culture

    So what happened?

    Why do men today struggle to form deep, lasting bonds?

    Here’s what’s changed:

    • Radical Individualism – Our culture glorifies the lone wolf, pushing men toward isolation instead of connection.
    • Hyper-Sexualization – Close male bonds are now viewed with suspicion, as if all deep love between men must be erotic.
    • Loss of Rites of Passage – Without real initiation into manhood, many men drift through life without strong male bonds.
    • Church Weakness on Brotherhood – Many churches emphasize marriage and family (which are good!) but offer no real vision for deep male brotherhood.

    The result? Men are more isolated than ever. They lack the deep, committed friendships that previous generations took for granted.

    5. Restoring What Was Lost: The Road Back to Covenant

    The good news? Covenant brotherhood isn’t gone—it’s just buried. And it’s time to dig it back up.

    How do we reclaim it?

    • Recognize the Need – Stop pretending men don’t need each other. We were designed for deep male bonds.
    • Break the Lies – Brotherhood isn’t weak. It isn’t something to grow out of. It isn’t sexual. It’s biblical.
    • Commit to Your Brothers – Brotherhood doesn’t happen by accident. It’s built through intentionality, consistency, and shared mission.
    • Keep Christ at the Center – Without Jesus, it’s just friendship. But with Him? It’s covenant. It’s family. It’s something unshakable.

  • The Gift of Us

    Scene: Micah and Luke sit by a campfire under a wide Tennessee sky, embers popping soft. Micah’s got a stick in hand, poking at the flames—restless. Luke’s leaning back against a log, steady as ever, watching his brother wrestle.

    Micah tossed the stick into the fire and let out a long breath. “Luke, I’ve been thinking about us—about this.” He gestured between them, voice tight. “What we’ve got—it’s good, man—but sometimes I wonder if it could be more.”

    Luke tilted his head, eyes catching the firelight. “More how?”

    Micah shifted, boots scuffing the dirt. “You know—like closer. Deeper. Maybe step it up—cross that line. I feel it sometimes—this pull—and I think it’d make us stronger.”

    Luke sat quiet for a moment, letting the words settle. He leaned forward, elbows on his knees, and looked at Micah—steady, warm. “I feel it too, brother—that pull. Chest gets tight, lower parts stir—I’m not blind to it. But stronger? Nah, I don’t buy that.”

    Micah frowned, picking up another stick to fidget with. “Why not? Isn’t that what love does—grows bigger, takes you somewhere new? We’re tight—closer than I’ve ever been with anyone. Feels like the next step’s right there.”

    Luke nodded slow, like he was weighing every word Micah spilled. “I get it—feels natural, right? World says if it’s this deep, it’s gotta go there—romance, bodies, all in. But listen—I’ve been down that road in my head—felt the hum—thought crossing’d make it more. It doesn’t.”

    Micah’s grip tightened on the stick. “How do you know? What if it’s better—what if it’s what we’re meant for?”

    Luke exhaled, his breath curling in the cool night air. “Because I’ve seen what’s on the other side—not with you, but with others—back when I was lost. It’s fire, sure—but it burns out. Starts hot, ends cold—leaves you empty, chasing the next spark. What we’ve got? This right here?” He tapped his chest, then pointed at Micah. “This is warm—steady—keeps going. Doesn’t need to cross to be real.”

    Micah looked away, firelight carving shadows on his face. “But I feel it, Luke—stronger some days than others. Like it’s telling me something—telling us something.”

    Luke leaned in closer, voice dropping low but sure. “I know you feel it—I do too. That’s not a lie, and it’s not wrong. It’s just our wiring—old echoes kicking up—heart, body, all of it. But God’s not teasing us with that—He’s not dangling it to pull it back. He’s giving us something else—something bigger. This bond—this covenant—it’s a gift, man. Doesn’t need more to be everything.”

    Micah’s jaw worked, eyes still on the flames. “Feels like we’re holding back, though—like we’re missing out.”

    Luke shook his head, a faint smile tugging his lips. “We’re not missing—we’re holding onto what lasts. You cross that line, it shifts—turns inward—gets tangled—needs more to keep it alive. This?” He gestured between them, same as Micah had. “This stands free—soul deep—God’s breath in it. I’ve got you here—whole, steady—don’t need to own you to love you. That’s better—way better—than any step up the world’s pushing.”

    Micah let the stick fall—watched it catch in the embers—quiet stretching between them. “You really think it’s enough—just this?”

    Luke reached over, clapped a hand on Micah’s shoulder—warm, firm. “Enough? Brother, it’s more than I ever hoped for. You’re my rock—I’m yours—nothing shakes that. God’s not withholding—He’s handing us gold—love that don’t bend, don’t break. Feel that pull—sure—but let it sit—give it to Him. We’re stronger right where we stand.”

    Micah exhaled slow—nodded once—eyes softening as the fire crackled low. “I hear you. Just… takes some unlearning, you know?”

    Luke’s grin widened—hand still on Micah’s shoulder. “Yeah—I know. Took me a while too—still does some days. But we’ve got this—together—God’s got us. Ain’t nothing better than that.”

    Micah smiled—small but real—leaning into the warmth of Luke’s grip. The night stretched quiet around them—fire glowing steady—and for the first time in a while, the pull didn’t feel like a fight.

    It felt like a gift.

  • The Night We Almost Walked Away

    Eli was already halfway to his truck when Jason called after him.

    “So that’s it?” Jason’s voice was sharp, cutting through the cold night air. “You’re really just gonna leave?”

    Eli stopped but didn’t turn around. His shoulders were tight, hands curled into fists at his sides. “Man, I don’t know what else to do.”

    Jason stepped closer, his pulse hammering. “You fight. That’s what you do.”

    Eli let out a dry laugh. “Yeah? ‘Cause it sure don’t feel like you’ve been fighting for this.”

    Jason flinched. That one landed.

    Eli finally turned, his jaw clenched. “You pull away every time things get hard, and I just—” He dragged a hand through his hair. “I can’t keep being the only one holding this together.”

    Jason exhaled hard, looking at the ground. He hated that Eli was right.

    Eli shook his head. “Look, I know I’m not perfect. But I show up. I tell you when I’m struggling. And you—” He gestured vaguely, frustration tightening his voice. “You just bury it. Act like you’re fine even when you’re not. And somehow, I’m supposed to just know what’s going on with you?”

    Jason’s chest burned. “It’s not that easy for me, alright?”

    “Yeah? Well, it ain’t easy for me either.” Eli’s voice was rough now, strained. “You’re not the only one who’s been through some stuff, J.”

    Jason looked up then, met Eli’s eyes—dark with hurt, with exhaustion.

    And it hit him all at once.

    This wasn’t just some petty argument. This wasn’t about one bad night or a stupid misunderstanding.

    This was Eli saying, I can’t be the only one holding this line.

    Jason swallowed hard. “You’re right.”

    Eli blinked, caught off guard.

    Jason stepped closer, voice quieter now. “You’re right, man. I don’t know how to do this. I don’t know how to let someone in when everything in me says I gotta handle it alone.” He shook his head. “But I don’t want to lose this. I don’t want to lose you.”

    Eli just looked at him for a second, something unreadable in his face.

    Jason hesitated, then reached out—gripped the back of Eli’s neck, firm, grounding. “Don’t go, man. I need you to stay.”

    Eli’s breath hitched. For a second, Jason thought he might shove him off, might say it’s too late.

    But then—Eli’s shoulders dropped. The tension bled out of him, and he let out a long, shaky breath.

    “Alright,” he muttered. “Alright.”

    Jason let go, stepping back, but the weight in his chest had lifted.

    Eli gave him a tired smirk. “You really suck at talking about your feelings.”

    Jason huffed a laugh, shaking his head. “Yeah, well… I’m working on it.”

    Eli clapped him on the shoulder, lingering just a second longer than usual. “Good. ‘Cause I ain’t going anywhere.”

    And that was that.

    They walked back to the truck together, the cold night still pressing in.

    But somehow, it didn’t feel so heavy anymore.

  • Letter to My Brother

    Brother,

    I don’t say it near enough. I probably should, but I need you to hear this. I thank God for you every day I’ve got breath.

    I don’t know where I’d be without this, without you. I think of those nights we’ve sat on the tailgate with our boots dangling, not saying a word because we didn’t need to. I think of those calls you’ve made, pulling me up when I’m sliding, your voice steady, reminding me who I am when the mirror’s foggy and I can’t see straight.

    This world’s cold, man. We’ve both felt it bite. That loneliness sneaks in, even when the room’s full. Folks see you but don’t get you, know your name but not your soul. I’ve walked that with my chest hollow, searching for something warm to hold onto.

    But not with you, brother.

    With you, I don’t have to front. I don’t need to flex, watch my step, or wonder if I fit. No masks, just me with my rough edges and dumb quirks, all of it. You’re home, brother, plain and simple, steady ground when everything else shakes.

    This thing we’ve got isn’t some fling that fizzles when life piles up. It isn’t built on quick laughs or easy days. It’s covenant, carved deep, soul to soul. I don’t toss that word around. It’s weight I carry, a promise I keep.

    If the world tugs at you, I’ll yank harder. If you drift, I’ll track you down with my boots on and coffee in hand. I won’t stop until I find you. If you stumble and hit the dirt, I’m there with my hand out. I ain’t letting you stay low, not on my watch.

    That’s us. That’s what we are.

    We don’t always go deep. Half the time it’s you roasting my coffee or me saying you owe me lunch. But don’t you ever think you’re solo on this road, not for a second. I’m making it crystal. You’re not alone.

    I’ve got your back, always have, always will.

    So wherever you’re at tonight, whatever’s sitting heavy on your chest, know this. I’m here. Miles don’t matter. Storms don’t shake me. Nothing changes it.

    We’re in this, locked tight, and I ain’t going nowhere.

    Yours, always,
    Josh

  • Not Alone

    Jason had been watching Eli slip for weeks.

    It wasn’t the kind of thing most people would notice. He still showed up to work, still laughed at the right moments, still answered texts. But Jason saw the difference. The way Eli’s voice had lost something. The way he never lingered after church anymore. The way his eyes were always tired.

    Tonight was the first time he actually got Eli to come over. No agenda, just burgers and a game on in the background. But Jason could tell—Eli was somewhere else.

    They sat on the porch now, the night quiet around them, crickets filling the space between their words.

    “You gonna tell me what’s going on?” Jason finally asked.

    Eli exhaled sharply. “Nothing, man. Just been tired.”

    Jason didn’t buy it. “Tired how?”

    Eli shrugged, staring at the ground. “Like…what’s the point?”

    Jason’s chest tightened.

    Eli shook his head. “I’m not gonna do anything stupid,” he muttered. “I just—man, I’m so tired of fighting.”

    Jason leaned forward, elbows on his knees. “Fighting what?”

    Eli let out a humorless laugh. “Everything. Temptation. The loneliness. Trying to be strong all the time. Feeling like I’m the only one who walks into an empty house every night, wondering if this whole ‘choosing Christ’ thing is actually gonna be enough.”

    Jason swallowed hard.

    Eli kept going, voice raw now. “I know the truth. I know God’s got me. But it still hurts, man. And it’s like no one even sees it.”

    Jason didn’t speak right away. He just reached over and grabbed Eli by the shoulder, firm.

    Eli flinched, barely noticeable.

    Jason tightened his grip. “I see it.”

    Eli’s throat bobbed.

    Jason didn’t let go. “You hear me? I see you, brother. And I need you to listen to me real close—you are not walking this road alone.”

    Eli squeezed his eyes shut. His breathing was uneven now, something cracking open inside him.

    Jason pulled him in, one hand gripping the back of his neck, the other around his shoulder. Eli didn’t move at first—stiff, like he didn’t know how to accept it.

    Then, slowly, he let out a shaky breath and leaned in.

    Jason held tight. “I’ve got you. We got you. And you’re gonna make it.”

    Eli didn’t say anything. Didn’t have to.

    Jason could feel it—the weight lifting, the battle shifting.

    And for the first time in a long time, Eli let himself believe it.

    This one hits harder—real weight, real release. The physical touch isn’t just an extra detail—it’s part of what breaks through.

  • Already There

    Jake sat on the tailgate of Logan’s truck, staring out over the field. The last of the evening light stretched long across the grass, turning the sky soft shades of orange and blue.

    Logan stood nearby, tightening the straps on the cooler, slow and steady.

    “You ever think about how weird this is?” Jake asked.

    Logan glanced over. “What’s weird?”

    Jake exhaled, rubbing the back of his neck. “This. Us. The way we just… I don’t know, fit.”

    Logan raised an eyebrow. “Something wrong with fitting?”

    Jake huffed. “No. Just feels like—” He shook his head. “I don’t know. Like I didn’t sign up for this, but somehow, here we are.”

    Logan chuckled, shutting the cooler with a firm thunk. “That’s ‘cause you didn’t sign up for it.”

    Jake frowned. “What do you mean?”

    Logan leaned against the truck, arms crossed. “You think David and Jonathan planned to be brothers like that? Think they sat down, drafted up an agreement, made it official?”

    Jake smirked. “I mean, technically, Jonathan did make a covenant with David.”

    Logan nodded. “Yeah. But only ‘cause he recognized what was already there. He didn’t create it. He just stepped into what God had already done.”

    Jake was quiet for a second, letting that settle.

    Logan kept going. “A lot of men walk around thinking they’ve gotta build something like this from scratch. That if they want deep brotherhood, they’ve gotta go find it, make it happen.” He shook his head. “But covenant’s not something we manufacture. It’s something God writes into the grain—and we either step into it or we don’t.”

    Jake exhaled. “So you’re saying this—” he gestured between them—“was always gonna happen?”

    Logan shrugged. “I’m saying it was always possible. But you had to have the eyes to see it. Had to have the courage to say yes to it.”

    Jake picked at the edge of the truck bed, thoughtful. “So… I’m already in this, huh?”

    Logan smirked. “Been in it, brother. Took you long enough to notice.”

    Jake chuckled, shaking his head.

    The field stretched quiet around them. No need for more words.

    Some things don’t have to be built.

    They just have to be seen.

  • Walking It Out

    Zach sat on the park bench, stretching out his legs as he watched the sun sink lower over the trees. Tyler dropped down beside him, taking a long sip of his water.

    “You ever just feel… off?” Zach asked.

    Tyler glanced over. “How do you mean?”

    Zach shrugged. “Not like I’m doubting or anything. Just—some days, the whole celibacy thing feels easy. Other days, it feels like climbing a mountain with no summit.”

    Tyler nodded. “Yeah. I get that.”

    Zach exhaled. “So what do you do when it feels like that?”

    Tyler took another sip, thinking. “Honestly? I remind myself why I’m here. Not just the why not—but the why. The bigger picture.”

    Zach smirked. “Oh, here we go. Hit me with some deep wisdom.”

    Tyler laughed. “Nah, man. I just mean… I think about what I’d actually be chasing if I wasn’t choosing this. I think about how everything else is temporary, but this—this life in Christ? This brotherhood? It’s solid.”

    Zach nodded slowly. “Yeah. That’s what I keep coming back to, too.”

    They sat in silence for a moment, just taking in the stillness of the park.

    Tyler leaned forward, elbows on his knees. “You ever notice how people assume celibacy is all about what we’re missing? Like we’re just out here suffering through it?”

    Zach scoffed. “All the time. Like, ‘Oh man, you’re choosing not to be with someone? That must be so miserable.’”

    Tyler grinned. “Right? But they don’t get it. It’s not just about not doing something. It’s about living for something bigger.”

    Zach was quiet for a second, then nodded. “Yeah. And the crazy thing is, even on the hard days, I wouldn’t trade it. I mean, I get to live my life fully present, not chasing the next emotional high or trying to figure out where I belong.”

    Tyler leaned back. “Exactly. And we’re not doing this alone.”

    Zach smirked. “That’s the best part.”

    Tyler grinned. “Damn straight.”

    Zach bumped his shoulder. “Careful, man. We gotta keep it holy.”

    Tyler laughed. “Yeah, yeah. Work in progress.”

    They sat there a while longer, the sun dipping behind the trees. No rush. No weight of expectation. Just two brothers, walking the road together.

    And somehow, even on the hard days, it was enough.

    This keeps the focus on living it out—not on what they left, but on why it’s worth it now.

  • The Divide

    Josh tightened his grip on the steering wheel, jaw clenched. The streetlights blurred past as he drove, heart pounding harder than it should over something like this.

    I should let it go.

    But he couldn’t.

    Mike’s words from earlier still echoed, sharp and unfiltered. “You don’t get it, man. You think you do, but you don’t.”

    Josh had snapped back—something about always being there, about how Mike was the one pushing people away. Things escalated, and now here they were—silence.

    Three weeks. No texts. No calls.

    Josh pulled into the diner parking lot, killed the engine, and sat there. He wasn’t even sure why he came. Maybe just to stop feeling like he was waiting.

    Inside, the place was half-empty, the hum of conversation mixing with the clatter of dishes. And then—Mike.

    Sitting in the back booth, arms crossed, staring out the window.

    Josh exhaled, ran a hand through his hair, and walked over.

    Mike looked up as he approached, his expression unreadable. He didn’t nod, didn’t wave. Just watched as Josh slid into the seat across from him.

    Neither spoke at first. The waitress came, took their orders, and left.

    Finally, Josh leaned forward. “I almost didn’t come.”

    Mike scoffed, shaking his head. “Same.”

    Josh sighed. “So what are we doing here?”

    Mike didn’t answer right away. He tapped his fingers on the table, staring down at his coffee. “I don’t know. But I know I don’t want to pretend like none of it happened.”

    Josh nodded slowly. “Yeah.”

    Another silence.

    Mike shifted in his seat. “You were right about some things,” he admitted, voice quieter now. “But you don’t know what it’s like to carry this…this weight.”

    Josh’s chest tightened. “Then tell me.”

    Mike glanced up, eyes wary, but something in Josh’s face must’ve told him he meant it.

    And so he did.

    He talked—about the anger he’d been holding in, the things he never said out loud. About how sometimes the weight of past struggles, of feeling different, of wanting to be known but fearing being too known—how it all built up, and Josh had just been the guy who caught the fallout.

    Josh listened. Really listened.

    And when Mike finally ran out of words, Josh just nodded. “I hear you.”

    Mike exhaled, shoulders dropping. “So where does that leave us?”

    Josh studied him for a moment. “Same place we started.”

    Mike frowned. “What does that mean?”

    Josh leaned back. “You’re still my brother.”

    Mike let out a short laugh, shaking his head. “Even after all that?”

    Josh smirked. “Especially after all that.”

    The waitress came back, setting down their plates. The tension in the air had shifted—not gone, but lighter. Real.

    Mike picked up his fork, shaking his head. “You’re a stubborn idiot.”

    Josh grinned. “That’s what makes this work.”

    And just like that, the divide wasn’t so wide anymore.

  • When Brotherhood is Tested

    Brotherhood is easy when everything’s good.

    When there’s no conflict, no misunderstandings, no disappointments—sticking together feels natural.

    But what about when it’s not easy?

    What happens when your brother lets you down? When frustration builds? When something shifts, and the bond feels strained?

    This is where most friendships crack. Where the world says, Move on. Find someone else. Protect yourself.

    But covenant isn’t like the world.

    Brotherhood is meant to be for life, but that doesn’t mean it’s always smooth. Every deep bond will be tested—by conflict, by disappointment, even by betrayal.

    So what do you do when it happens?

    1. Don’t Let Discomfort Make the Decision for You

    A lot of men walk away from brotherhood not because of a real break, but because things got uncomfortable.

    • A hard conversation was needed, but neither side had it.

    • A misunderstanding went unaddressed, and resentment settled in.

    • One man expected too much, the other gave too little, and instead of adjusting, they drifted.

    Covenant doesn’t mean you never hurt each other. It means you fight through when you do.

    2. Face Conflict with Truth and Grace

    If a brother has wounded you, or if you’ve wounded him, the next move isn’t silence. It’s truth.

    • Speak honestly. Say what needs to be said.

    • But do it with grace—without assumptions, without accusations.

    • Give the same patience and mercy that you’d want to receive.

    Brotherhood requires truth. But truth without love destroys.

    3. Some Wounds Can Be Healed. Some Require Space.

    Not every conflict means the end of a bond.

    • Some wounds just need time, humility, and conversation. They can heal stronger than before.

    • Some require stepping back—not to abandon, but to let God do the work in both hearts.

    And yeah—some betrayals are deep enough that distance is needed. But even then, covenant doesn’t mean you stop praying, forgiving, or leaving the door open for restoration.

    4. When It’s Worth Fighting For, Fight For It.

    There’s a reason so many men feel isolated—it’s easier to walk away than to fight for a bond. But real brotherhood is worth it.

    So if there’s distance, reach out.

    If there’s tension, clear the air.

    If a brother is slipping, go after him.

    Because the ones who fight for each other? Those are the ones who will still be standing together years down the road.

    Brotherhood Was Meant to Last

    Jesus never said love would be easy. But He did say it would be worth it.

    Covenant isn’t just about the good times—it’s about the moments when it’s tested, when everything in you says let it go, but God says hold on.

    So when the test comes—and it will come—don’t walk away too quickly.

    Because the bonds that make it through?

    Those are the ones that last a lifetime.

  • Baptism of Freedom

    The sun climbed high, scattering warmth across the forest and the sparkling surface of the river ahead. James and Luke approached the water’s edge, their pace unhurried as the gentle gurgle of the current beckoned them. Neither had spoken much since leaving camp that morning. There was no need. The tranquility of their surroundings spoke louder than words.

    James knelt to touch the cool water, watching ripples fan out across the surface. He stood and began to peel off his shirt, the sunlight catching on the faded scars and sinew of his back—marks that told a story of battles both physical and spiritual. Luke followed suit, discarding his clothes with casual ease. They both stood there for a moment, bare and unguarded, their presence in each other’s company as natural as the trees swaying gently around them.

    Luke broke the stillness with a grin. “You’re gonna make me race you, aren’t you?”

    James chuckled, shaking his head. “Nah, I’d win too easily.”

    “Oh, you think so?” Luke lunged toward the water, splashing in with a loud whoop. James laughed and followed, the cold current seizing his breath before his body adjusted. They swam out to the deeper middle stretch, where the water flowed slower, languid and clear.

    Floating on his back, James gazed up at the sky. The vast blueness seemed endless, a mirror to the freedom he felt coursing through him. He hadn’t realized how heavy life had been until moments like this—moments when everything fell away, leaving only presence and peace.

    Luke surfaced beside him, shaking droplets from his hair. “Feels like a reset,” he murmured. “Like God just… washes everything away out here.”

    James nodded. “Yeah. Like a baptism.” He let his arms drift out wide in the water, surrendering to its gentle embrace. “It’s hard to explain, but this—being out here, no walls, no noise—makes me feel closer to God than anything else.”

    Luke floated beside him, silent for a moment as he took it in. “I think it’s because there’s nothing to hide behind. Just us, how God made us. No distractions.” He glanced over at James. “I never imagined I’d be able to feel this… free. Especially not with another man.”

    James turned his head to meet Luke’s eyes. There was a subtle charge between them, unspoken but understood. It wasn’t fear or tension, but something deeper—a recognition of their shared trust and vulnerability. The water seemed to cradle them both in that sacred space.

    “It’s rare,” James said softly. “But it’s good. We don’t have to be afraid of it.”

    Luke smiled, letting the words sink in. He closed his eyes for a moment, then took a deep breath, submerging again. When he surfaced, he wiped water from his face and laughed quietly. “I think I’m gonna miss this place.”

    “Me too,” James agreed. “But we’ll take it with us. This peace, this connection—we’re meant to carry it forward.”

    They swam for a while longer, diving under the surface, racing each other in playful bursts, their laughter blending with the music of the river. Eventually, they returned to the shore, lying on the sun-warmed rocks to dry. Their breathing slowed, syncing with the steady rhythm of the flowing water nearby.

    “We’ll be heading back soon,” James said, breaking the peaceful quiet.

    “Yeah,” Luke replied, eyes half-closed as he soaked in the sun. “Back to life, back to the guys we’re mentoring. I feel ready, though. Like God’s given us everything we need to face it.”

    James reached over and clasped Luke’s hand briefly, a quiet affirmation of everything they had spoken and experienced over the past few days.

    “We’ve got each other,” James said.

    “And God’s got us,” Luke added.

    They remained there for a while longer, letting the simplicity of the moment anchor them. When they finally stood and gathered their clothes, the weight of responsibility no longer felt daunting. They had been renewed—by nature, by God, and by the bond that held them together.

    (Chapter from the third installment of the James and Luke series. Contact me if you’d like to read the full story or series.)

  • The Edge of the Fight

    Mike sat in his truck, engine running, hands gripping the wheel so tight his knuckles went white. The glow of his phone screen lit up the cab, the open app staring back at him.

    It would be easy. Just a few taps.

    He hadn’t been here in a long time—not like this. Not with the weight pressing in so hard, whispering just give in.

    He closed his eyes, breath shaky.

    What’s the point of fighting anymore?

    It wasn’t just this moment—it was the exhaustion of always fighting. Always being the one trying to resist, trying to hold the line. Tonight, something in him felt like breaking.

    The screen blurred as he hovered his thumb over the button.

    And then—his phone rang.

    Josh.

    Mike just stared at the name, pulse hammering. He could ignore it. Could let it ring out.

    But his hands moved before his mind caught up, swiping the call open.

    “Mike?” Josh’s voice was steady, no small talk, just straight to it.

    Mike swallowed, pressing his forehead against the wheel. “Yeah.”

    A pause. “Where are you?”

    Mike exhaled through his nose. “Parking lot.”

    Josh didn’t ask which one. He just knew.

    “You already in?”

    Mike squeezed his eyes shut. “Not yet.”

    Silence stretched between them. Then Josh spoke, voice firm. “You’re not alone.”

    Mike let out a bitter breath. “Sure feels like it.”

    “You think that’s an accident?” Josh shot back. “You think that voice in your head is yours? That exhaustion, that pull—it ain’t just struggle, brother. It’s war. And you’re not fighting it alone.”

    Mike’s jaw clenched. His grip on the wheel tightened. He wanted to believe that. But right now, the weight felt so heavy.

    Josh’s voice came softer now. “Look, man. I know you’re tired. I know this fight feels like it’ll never end. But listen to me—this is not who you are. You’re not some lost man, crawling back to the pit. You are my brother. And I will not let you sit in this alone.”

    Mike’s throat tightened.

    “You want to sit there in silence, fine,” Josh said. “I’ll sit with you. But you’re not walking into that place, and you’re not going under. Not tonight.”

    Mike gritted his teeth. He felt the pull, still there. Still strong. But something else was there now too—a hand gripping his collar, refusing to let go.

    For the first time that night, the weight shifted.

    He inhaled. “Yeah. Okay.”

    Josh’s voice held steady. “Let’s go. I’ll meet you at the diner in ten. Coffee’s on me.”

    Mike nodded, even though Josh couldn’t see him. His hand hovered over the phone for a second—then he closed the app, threw the phone onto the passenger seat, and shifted the truck into gear.

    He pulled out of the parking lot. Out of the fight—for now.

    And not alone.

  • Firelight Rite

    The logs cracked and shifted, sending sparks into the night air. Nathan sat across from the fire, arms resting on his knees, eyes locked on the flames. The heat flickered against his face, but the tightness in his chest had nothing to do with the cold.

    Caleb sat beside him, rolling a stone in his palm, quiet. He’d been quiet most of the night, letting Nathan wrestle with whatever he wasn’t saying.

    Finally, Caleb spoke. “You ever notice how fire changes wood?”

    Nathan frowned, looking up. “What?”

    “The heat pulls something out of it. You can hear it—the sap hissing, the cracks forming. It burns, but it becomes something different.” Caleb turned the stone between his fingers. “A lot of guys think they just wake up one day as men. Like time will do the work for them. But that’s not how it happens.”

    Nathan looked back at the flames, swallowing. “Then how does it happen?”

    Caleb didn’t answer right away. He stood, grabbed a thick branch from the pile beside them, and tossed it into the fire. The bark sizzled, blackening, flame curling up its sides. “It happens when you go through something. When other men see you, speak into you, and won’t let you sit in doubt.”

    He turned to Nathan. “You don’t become a man by accident, brother. You step into it.” He held Nathan’s gaze. “And you’re ready.”

    Nathan exhaled. His hands clenched, then released.

    No one had ever said that to him before.

    Caleb reached into his pack and pulled out a knife. He flipped it open, then grabbed a thick piece of wood from the pile. “Mark it,” he said, handing the blade to Nathan.

    Nathan hesitated. “Mark what?”

    “This moment,” Caleb said. “Right here, right now. You’re stepping in. Make it real.”

    Nathan turned the knife in his palm, feeling its weight. He looked down at the wood, rough and unshaped, then glanced at Caleb. He wasn’t joking. Wasn’t explaining. Just waiting.

    Nathan pressed the blade against the surface and started to carve. He didn’t overthink it. Didn’t try to make it perfect. Just let the knife bite into the grain, cutting something real into what had been blank.

    When he was done, he sat back, staring at what he had made. It wasn’t much—just a symbol, a word, something only he and God would understand. But it was there. And it was his.

    Caleb leaned forward, nodding. “That’s it.” His voice was steady, sure. “You are a man, Nathan. No more waiting. No more questioning. Walk in it.”

    Nathan swallowed hard.

    The fire cracked again, and something in his chest cracked with it.

    He didn’t say anything. Didn’t have to.

    He just nodded. And for the first time, he felt it.

  • Brotherhood as the Missing Rite of Passage

    Some men were initiated into manhood. Most of us weren’t.

    We never had that moment—the one that said, You are a man now. Step into it. We just kept moving forward, hoping that at some point, it would click.

    But it never really did.

    The world tells us that manhood just happens when we turn 18, or when we hit certain milestones—first job, first car, marriage, fatherhood. But deep down, we know that’s not how it works.

    We don’t need another achievement to feel like men. We need other men to call us forward. And more than that—we need Christ to define us first.

    Brotherhood Restores What Was Lost

    The ancient rites of passage weren’t just about a challenge—they were about witnesses. Older men stood around the younger and said, We see you. You have passed the test. You are one of us now.

    That’s what covenant brotherhood does.

    • It doesn’t leave a man to figure it out alone. It calls him up—through challenge, truth, and trust.

    • It doesn’t measure him by worldly standards. It confirms what God already placed in him.

    • It doesn’t let him sit in doubt. It names him as a man and holds him accountable to live as one.

    But even brotherhood is incomplete without the One who created it.

    Christ is the True Initiator

    Before any man can call us forward, before we can walk in covenant with our brothers, we need to hear it from God Himself.

    “You are my son.”

    “You belong to Me.”

    “Your manhood is not fragile—it is rooted in Me.”

    Christ is the One who restores what was lost. But He doesn’t do it in isolation—He places us in brotherhood, because manhood was never meant to be lived alone.

    It’s Not Too Late

    Brotherhood is the road back to initiation. It’s not about recreating old rituals—it’s about stepping into a circle of men who won’t let you drift, won’t let you doubt, and won’t let you stay passive.

    It’s about walking with men who challenge you, not to prove yourself, but because they already see the man God made you to be.

    And once you have that? You do the same for another. Because manhood isn’t just about being called up. It’s about calling others up too.

  • When Do You Become a Man?

    There was a time when a boy knew when he became a man.

    He didn’t have to wonder. There was a moment—whether through trial, initiation, or the voice of older men—when it was spoken over him. You are a man now. Step into it.

    Now? Most men never hear those words. They just drift into adulthood, hoping that one day they’ll feel different, but they never do.

    We’ve lost something vital.

    Manhood Was Never Meant to Be a Guessing Game

    In most cultures throughout history, men didn’t just stumble into manhood—they were called into it. Sometimes it was through a test of endurance, sometimes a sacred ritual, sometimes a hard-earned responsibility. But whatever it was, it left no doubt:

    The boy was gone. The man had stepped forward.

    But today? There’s no clear line. No defining moment. Boys grow older, but they don’t become men—they just age into them.

    And the result? A generation of men who feel like they’re still waiting for permission to become what they were made to be.

    Without Initiation, Men Drift

    • Some chase achievement, hoping that success will finally make them feel like men.

    • Some chase women, thinking masculinity is proven through conquest.

    • Some stay passive, unsure, never stepping up because no one ever told them they were ready.

    Deep down, every man wants to know he is one. But no one tells him. No one confirms it. So he keeps waiting.

    It’s Not Too Late to Step In

    Brother, if you never had that moment—if no one ever called you up—you are not stuck. You don’t have to keep drifting, waiting for someone to hand you manhood like a diploma.

    Here’s the truth:

    • God has already named you a man. He created you as one. You don’t need to prove it—you need to step into it.

    • Manhood isn’t given in isolation. Other men confirm it. That’s why covenant brotherhood matters. You need men who will say, Brother, you belong. We see you. Walk in it.

    • You may not have had a rite of passage—but you can mark the moment now. Maybe it’s a challenge, a commitment, a moment before God where you declare, No more waiting. No more drifting. I will walk in who I am.

    Manhood Is Meant to Be Stepped Into

    You were never meant to spend your life wondering if you are a man. If no one ever told you—hear it now:

    You are a man. God made you one. Step into it.

    And if you’ve already walked this road? Then look behind you. There’s a younger brother who is still waiting to hear what no one ever told him. Call him up. Show him the way.

    Because manhood isn’t just about becoming. It’s about calling others forward.

  • Campfire Reflection

    The fire crackled softly, sending gentle waves of warmth across the clearing. The sky above was moonless, filled with stars that shimmered like scattered jewels. James and Luke sat on either side of the flames, their faces flickering in the shifting light. Around them, the quiet of the night felt sacred, wrapping them in stillness. It was their favorite kind of moment—time carved out for rest, reflection, and the kind of conversation that came naturally now, after years of sharing their lives with one another.

    James stirred the fire with a stick, sending sparks dancing upward. “Remember that first retreat?” he asked, his voice contemplative. “When we sat by the fire and talked about who we were trying to be—what it meant to be a man?”

    Luke gave a slow nod, a faint smile tugging at the corner of his lips. “Yeah. Feels like a lifetime ago. We were both carrying so much back then, weren’t we?”

    James leaned back against a log, exhaling deeply. “Still are, in some ways. But I think… I think some of that shame isn’t as heavy anymore. At least, not in the same way.”

    Luke tilted his head, his blue eyes reflecting the firelight. “Yeah. I hear you. I used to feel like I was drowning in it. I thought I had to fight those feelings alone—pretend they didn’t exist. And when I couldn’t, the shame just kept piling on. Especially after my marriage ended. I thought I was a failure as a man and as a Christian.”

    James nodded slowly. “I carried that same shame for years. Especially when it came to my attraction to other men. It was like this deep, unrelenting fear that something was fundamentally broken inside me—that I’d never be enough.”

    Luke’s gaze softened, his expression understanding. “I know. And I remember how hard it was for you to even say those words out loud. But now… here you are, saying it with peace in your voice. That’s God’s work, man.”

    James smiled faintly. “Yeah, He’s done a lot. I’m still learning to trust that I’m seen through His eyes, not through the lens of my past. I used to think God saw me the way I saw myself—ashamed, afraid, disconnected. But slowly, He’s been undoing those lies.”

    Luke poked at the fire with a long branch, sending embers flaring. “Same here. For a long time, I felt like intimacy—real intimacy—was something I’d never have. Not with anyone. I’d built so many walls, even with you at first.”

    “I remember,” James said quietly. “But those walls are coming down. Little by little.”

    Luke chuckled softly. “It’s funny, isn’t it? The world has all these boxes for what relationships are supposed to look like—friendship, romance, family. But what we have… it doesn’t fit any of that neatly. And that used to scare me. But now? I don’t care how the world sees it. I know what this is.”

    “Same here,” James agreed. He leaned forward, the firelight illuminating the quiet conviction in his eyes. “We’ve built something sacred. A covenant, in every way that matters. It’s not always easy, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.”

    Luke nodded slowly. “It’s like… Jonathan and David, right? The kind of bond where you know, deep down, God brought you together for a purpose. There’s a depth to it that can’t really be explained.”

    “Exactly,” James said with a soft smile. “We’ve been through the fire, and it’s refined us—not broken us. That’s a testament to grace.”

    They sat in companionable silence for a while, the fire crackling softly between them. The warmth of their brotherhood, their shared story, filled the quiet space. James stretched his legs out, letting out a contented sigh.

    “You ever think about how different life would be if we hadn’t met at that retreat?” he asked.

    Luke shook his head. “I try not to. Because honestly? I don’t think I’d have made it through some of the things I’ve faced since then without you. God knew what He was doing when He brought us together.”

    “Yeah,” James murmured, his voice full of quiet gratitude. “He really did.”

    Luke glanced over at him, a faint grin on his face. “So… think we’ll ever fully ‘arrive’? You know, figure it all out?”

    James laughed softly. “Probably not. But maybe that’s the point. We don’t have to have it all figured out. We just have to keep trusting, keep walking the path.”

    “Together,” Luke added, his voice steady.

    “Together,” James echoed.

    They watched the fire slowly die down, the flames shrinking into glowing embers. The night around them deepened, but neither of them felt the weight of loneliness anymore. They had learned to carry their burdens—and each other—with grace.

    As the fire faded to soft, pulsing coals, James leaned back once more and gazed at the stars. Luke remained close, their shared silence a reflection of the peace that had taken root in both of their souls.

    This was brotherhood. This was healing. This was enough.

    (Chapter from a longer story about James and Luke, first story in a trilogy about these two characters. Contact me if you’d like to read the full story.)

  • Giving the Wound to Christ

    Brother, if you’ve seen the wound, named the lie, and know the truth in your head—but still feel the weight of it—this is for you.

    It’s one thing to recognize the wound. It’s another to give it to Christ and let Him redeem it. But what does that actually look like?

    Here’s where it starts:

    1. Stop Trying to Fix It Yourself

    We’ve spent years trying to prove our masculinity—trying to overcome the wound by being “man enough.” But healing doesn’t come through striving. It comes through surrender.

    That means admitting:

    “Lord, I can’t fix this. I’ve believed lies about myself for years, and I need You to replace them with truth.”

    That alone is hard. Because it means trusting His definition of us more than our own feelings, memories, or past experiences.

    2. Bring the Wound Into the Light

    Wounds fester in silence. The enemy wants you to keep it locked inside, to believe it’s just your burden to bear. But when you name it before God—when you bring it to a trusted brother, even—something shifts.

    When Jesus healed, He often asked, “What do you want Me to do for you?” Not because He didn’t know, but because naming it was part of the healing.

    So we bring it into the light:

    “Lord, I have believed I am less of a man. I have felt like I don’t belong. I give this to You—show me the truth.”

    And then, we listen. We let Him speak into it.

    3. Let God Redefine You Through Brotherhood

    Christ redeems our wounds, but He often does it through the hands and words of our brothers.

    When a brother sees you, challenges you, calls you his equal—not out of pity, but because he sees the man God made you to be—that’s healing in motion.

    You don’t become a man by proving yourself. You are a man because God made you one. The more you walk in real covenant, the more that truth sinks in.

    4. Walk in the Truth Before You Fully Feel It

    Here’s the hard part—choosing to believe what God says about you, even before your emotions catch up.

    That means when the old wound whispers, You don’t belong, you answer, That’s a lie. I am a son.

    When you feel like you’re on the outside looking in, you step in anyway. When brotherhood feels like something other men get, you stand in it as your birthright.

    Truth isn’t a feeling. It’s reality. And when we choose to walk in it, the wounds that once defined us start to fade.

    Brother, you don’t have to carry this alone. Christ is already in the work of redeeming it. You just have to give it to Him—again and again, until His truth is more real than the lies ever were.

    And He will finish what He started.

  • The Lie That Steals Sonship

    Brother, let’s talk about the wound most men don’t even realize they have. The one that starts early—so early, you can’t remember a time before it.

    Maybe it wasn’t a single moment, but a slow drift. Maybe it was a father who was there but distant, a brother who overshadowed you, a world that told you—subtly, persistently—you weren’t quite like the other boys.

    And then, the lie crept in:

    You don’t belong.

    You’re different.

    You’re not really a man.

    It wasn’t just about interests or personality. It was deeper. A gnawing sense that you missed something vital, that masculinity was something other men had—something you could admire, even long for, but never fully claim as your own.

    And for some of us, that’s where same-sex struggles first took root. Not as a choice, not as rebellion, but as a search for something we felt we lacked. The strength, the confidence, the belonging we thought we weren’t given. And because the world only knows how to frame male longing in sexual terms, that ache got twisted before we even knew what was happening.

    The enemy planted a lie in our boyhood, then spent years reinforcing it:

    You’ll never be one of them. You’re not enough. You’re something else.

    But brother, hear this: the enemy is a liar.

    God did not make a mistake when He made you a man. You are not an outsider to your own design. You are not less of a man because you don’t fit some narrow mold of strength or skill or stature.

    Masculinity is not about muscles or sports or how deep your voice is. It’s not something you earn. It’s something you are.

    You were born a son. Not half a son. Not a different kind of son. A son.

    The wound is real, but so is the healing. And it starts with rejecting the lie and stepping into the truth that was alwaysyours.

    You belong.

    You are enough.

    You are a man.

    Because God says so.

  • Covenant as Spiritual Warfare

    The enemy hates brotherhood.

    He always has.

    Because when men stand alone, they’re easy targets. But when they stand together—really together, in truth and covenant—the enemy has no foothold.

    This fight isn’t just personal. It’s not just about temptation, addiction, or loneliness. It’s about war. And the battlefield is littered with men who never knew they were even in a fight.

    The Enemy’s Strategy: Isolate, Twist, and Distort

    From the beginning, the enemy’s tactics haven’t changed.

    1. He isolates—makes a man feel like he’s the only one who struggles, the only one who feels this way, the only one who doesn’t belong. Isolation is his first and strongest weapon, because a man cut off from real brotherhood is already half-defeated.

    2. He twists—takes something good and bends it. The longing for brotherhood becomes sexualized. The hunger for affirmation becomes codependency. The need for strength turns into pride, or worse, passivity.

    3. He distorts—redefines manhood into something either unattainable or meaningless. Either you’re not enough of a man, or being a man doesn’t even matter. Either way, the result is the same: confusion, doubt, weakness.

    And the worst part? He convinces men that this is just how it is. That there’s no way back. That no one else sees the battle.

    But that’s a lie.

    Brotherhood is a Weapon

    Covenant brotherhood isn’t just nice to have—it’s a weapon forged for war. It defends, it strengthens, it breaks chains.

    • When a brother is isolated, covenant pulls him back. “You’re not alone. I see you. I stand with you.”

    • When a brother believes lies, covenant speaks truth. “That’s not who you are. This is who God says you are.”

    • When a brother is weak, covenant holds him up. “Lean on me. I’ll fight with you until you can fight for yourself.”

    This is why the enemy fights so hard to destroy male friendships, to make brotherhood uncomfortable, to make men second-guess their closeness with each other. Because when men walk in true covenant, chains break. Strongholds fall. And hell loses ground.

    The War is Won Together

    Brother, you were never meant to fight alone. The battles you’ve faced—whether against addiction, fear, loneliness, shame—were never meant to be yours to carry by yourself.

    And the men around you? They’re in the fight too. Some of them just don’t know it yet.

    So if you have covenant brothers, hold them close. If you don’t, find them. Because this isn’t just about friendship—it’s about survival.

    And in the end, when the dust settles, it won’t be the lone warriors still standing.

    It’ll be the men who stood together.

  • Truth Reflected

    The water was cool against the afternoon heat, rippling against their shoulders as they treaded side by side. Sunlight flickered off the surface, dappling their skin in shifting gold.

    Nathan ran a hand through his wet hair, glancing at Caleb. The guy looked like he belonged in the water—broad shoulders, solid frame, the kind of build that made everything look effortless. Nathan, leaner, wiry, felt like a reed next to a stone.

    They had swum out far enough that the shore was just a blur of trees and rocks. No one else was around. Just them, the lake, the sky stretching endless above.

    “I don’t know if I’ll ever shake it,” Nathan said finally, kicking slow beneath the water.

    “Shake what?” Caleb asked.

    Nathan exhaled. “The feeling that I missed something. That I was wired wrong from the start.” He looked down, watching the water ripple around him. “I see guys like you and I think—that’s what a man is supposed to be.”

    Caleb laughed softly. “Like what?”

    Nathan gestured vaguely. “You know. Strong. Built for it. Like it just fits on you.”

    Caleb floated on his back, staring at the sky. “You think muscle makes a man?”

    “No.” Nathan hesitated. “Not exactly. It’s not just that. It’s… I don’t know. It’s like you move through the world like you belong to it. Like you’ve never had to second-guess who you are.”

    Caleb let the silence settle between them before rolling back upright. “You ever notice how trees grow?”

    Nathan frowned. “What?”

    “Some grow thick, some grow tall. Some are knotted, some straight. You don’t see a pine tree looking at an oak, wondering if it should be broader. Or an oak looking at a pine, wishing it was taller.” He met Nathan’s gaze. “But they’re both trees. They both stand.”

    Nathan was quiet.

    Caleb ran a hand through the water. “You weren’t wired wrong. You weren’t meant to be me, or anyone else. You were meant to be you. A man, as God made you. Period.”

    Nathan swallowed, something in his chest tightening—not in pain, exactly, but in recognition.

    “You think you missed something,” Caleb said, “but maybe you just haven’t recognized what’s been in you all along.”

    The water lapped between them. Nathan didn’t answer right away. But he felt the weight of Caleb’s words sink deep, settling in places that had never quite known peace.

  • The Woodshop

    Nathan wasn’t sure why he agreed to come. He wasn’t a woodshop guy. Never had been. But Caleb had invited him, and he didn’t have a good reason to say no.

    The shop smelled like sawdust and oil, the kind of scent that lingered in clothes long after you left. Nathan hovered near the door, hands in his pockets, watching Caleb move around like he belonged there.

    “You just gonna stand there, or you gonna help?” Caleb shot him a look over his shoulder.

    Nathan smirked but didn’t move. “Not really my thing.”

    Caleb raised a brow, picking up a rough-cut slab of oak. “Sanding wood’s too big a stretch for you?”

    “I don’t know.” Nathan shifted, glancing at the workbench. “Just never did much of it.”

    Caleb grabbed a rough plank, running his fingers over the grain. “Nothing to it. You just sand down the rough edges ‘til you get something smooth. Wanna give it a shot?”

    Nathan hesitated—then stepped up. Took it—pressed it to the wood. First strokes were clumsy—grit catching awkward under his hand. He wasn’t sure he was doing it right—kept his eyes down.

    “My dad had a shop like this,” he said, voice slipping out quiet, almost lost in the scrape. “Used to sit on a stool in the corner—watch him work.”

    Caleb nodded—steady, listening. “He let you lend a hand?”

    Nathan let out a short laugh—sharp, no warmth. “Nah.”

    Caleb glanced up—caught the edge in it. “How come?”

    Nathan shrugged—kept sanding. “Didn’t trust me with his tools, I guess.” A beat—wood dust curling under his fingers. “Or maybe I wasn’t the son he figured on.”

    Caleb set down his sander, dusting off his hands. “What kind of son was that?”

    Nathan exhaled—eyes locked on the plank. “The kind who’d rather be in the kitchen with Mom than out here with him.” He laughed again—soft, thin—didn’t reach his eyes. “My brother got the ‘man stuff.’ Me? I got… I don’t know. Told I was different.”

    Caleb watched him—quiet for a stretch—then nodded at the wood in Nathan’s hands. “You know what makes oak tough?”

    Nathan looked up—caught Caleb’s steady gaze. “What?”

    “The grain.” Caleb ran his fingers along the plank’s surface. “It’s not straight and clean. It twists, knots up in places, even looks weak sometimes. But that’s what gives it strength. It holds.” He tapped the wood. “This is solid. Even with the knots.”

    Nathan stared at the grain beneath his fingertips, something catching in his chest that he wasn’t ready to name.

    “You’re not weak, brother,” Caleb said, quieter now. “Just because you weren’t a copy of your dad or your brother doesn’t mean you weren’t meant to stand strong. Maybe your grain’s just different.”

    Nathan swallowed, looking down. The wood dusted away beneath his hands, the surface smoothing. But some knots stayed, no matter how much he worked at them.

    Maybe that was alright.

  • Ethan’s Testimony: A Love That Holds The Line

    I spent most of my life looking for love in the wrong places. I didn’t think they were wrong at the time—I thought I was just following what came natural. What the world told me was me.

    But the thing about chasing something to fill the emptiness is that, sooner or later, you start to realize it’s not working. And that’s where I was when I met Ted—running, restless, tired of trying to fit into a mold that never felt right, but scared to admit I had no idea who I was without it.

    At first, I didn’t know what to make of him. A steady, no-nonsense Southern guy who didn’t say much unless it mattered. I wasn’t looking for a mentor. Definitely wasn’t looking for a friend. But somehow, without either of us meaning to, we ended up with something bigger.

    Covenant.

    I didn’t even know what that word meant outside of a church setting. And let’s be real, I wasn’t sure I wanted anything to do with church. But Ted never shoved faith down my throat. He just lived it, breathed it, showed me something real. And somewhere along the way, I stopped fighting it.

    I stopped fighting him, too.

    Because what we have? It’s not friendship in the way the world understands it. It’s deeper than that. It’s the kind of bond that holds the line when everything else pulls.

    People don’t get it. They assume things. Or they try to box it into categories that don’t fit. But the truth is, I spent my whole life thinking love had to look a certain way, had to be a certain way. And I was wrong.

    Love is a man standing beside you when the past comes knocking. It’s knowing that no matter what hits, you’re not standing alone.

    It’s a love that doesn’t ask for anything but gives everything.

    It’s what Ted and I chose.

    And I don’t care who doesn’t understand it.

    Because I know, now, that I wasn’t made to chase. I was made to stand.

    And I’m not standing alone.

    (Fictional testimony from a character in the Ethan and Ted series, contact me if you’d like to read these stories)

  • Ted’s Testimony: A Bond That Holds

    I’ve lived long enough to know that most folks don’t understand the kind of bond Ethan and I have. And I don’t blame ‘em. The world’s lost the language for it.

    Men don’t talk like this much anymore—not about love, not about needing each other. We’re supposed to be independent, self-sufficient. Even in the church, we talk a lot about brotherhood, but we keep it at arm’s length. Nothing too deep, nothing too close.

    I thought I’d made peace with that. I had my wife. My family. When she passed, I figured that part of my life was over. Love like that—covenant love—belonged to marriage, and anything else was just friendship, good but not the same. I settled into singleness, into faith, into the quiet. And then Ethan showed up.

    I didn’t expect him to matter to me. Not the way he does now. At first, I was just helping him find his footing. But somewhere along the way, God did something I wasn’t looking for. He gave me a brother.

    I don’t mean a friend, though Lord knows he’s that too. I mean someone who’s bound to me in a way I can’t shake, don’t want to shake. Someone I’d go to war for. Someone I carry in my prayers every night, not because I feel obligated, but because his burdens are mine now. Because I love him.

    Yeah, I said it. Love.

    That word gets twisted up these days. Either it means romance, or it’s watered down ‘til it don’t mean much at all. But what Ethan and I have—what we chose—it’s the kind of love that Christ calls us to. The kind that says, I’m not leaving. I’m standing with you, come what may.

    And it ain’t always easy. We’re different. He’s restless where I’m steady. He overthinks what I take on faith. And we’ve had our moments where the past—the broken, tangled parts of us—tried to twist what God was building. But grace holds. We hold.

    Covenant ain’t something you stumble into. It’s something you choose.

    Ethan chose me, and I chose him. Not because we needed saving, but because we needed keeping.

    And I thank God every day that He saw fit to give me a brother before I left this earth.

    (Fictional testimony from a character in the Ethan and Ted series, contact me if you’d like to read these stories)

  • When the Old Wiring Flickers

    Brother, let’s talk about it.

    You’re walking this road—committed to Christ, to covenant, to keeping love pure. You’ve left behind the old ways, the old habits, the old traps. But then it happens.

    A moment. A flicker. A hum deep in your chest, or lower.

    Not lust, not a craving to sin—just… something. That old wiring sparking, the way your mind was trained to read closeness, the echoes of a world that twisted brotherhood into something else.

    Maybe it’s a laugh that lands just right. Maybe it’s the way trust feels too good because you’ve only ever known it with strings attached. Maybe it’s just the simple weight of being seen, known, cared for by another man—and your soul, even your flesh, shaped by old missteps, isn’t quite sure how to hold it steady.

    And the enemy? He’s quick to whisper:
    See? You haven’t changed. This is who you are. You’re just fighting the inevitable.

    Lies. All of it.

    The hum isn’t sin. The flicker isn’t failure. It’s just a sign that you’re still learning, still unlearning, still handing the deepest parts of your heart over to God.

    What matters is what you do next.

    How Covenant Brothers Handle It

    You name it. You don’t pretend it’s not there, don’t shove it down in shame. You look it in the eye and say, “That’s just old wiring, not truth.”

    You pray through it. Right there, in the moment. Simple, direct—“Lord, I feel this. I give it to You. Make it holy.”

    You trust your brother. Don’t panic, don’t pull back, don’t let the enemy make you feel like you need to run. If he’s a true covenant brother, he gets it. And if he feels it too? You both hold the line together. No fear, no weirdness—just honesty, accountability, and Christ at the center.

    You let God rewire you. Every time you choose faith over fear, truth over temptation, God is retraining your heart. Teaching you what real brotherhood looks like—strong, committed, untwisted by sin.

    Brotherhood Is Stronger Than the Hum

    Brother, the world tells you the hum means you’re bound to fall. That deep male love always has to turn into something else. That you can’t trust yourself, or your brothers, or even God to hold you steady.

    But that’s a lie.

    You are not a slave to your past. You are not at the mercy of every flicker, every spark. You are free. And covenant brotherhood? It’s not fragile. It’s not some tightrope you have to walk carefully, scared of slipping. It’s strong, forged in Christ, able to hold even the weight of old wounds and old wiring.

    So next time that hum rises up? Take a breath. Name it. Pray through it. Trust your brother. And keep moving forward.

    You are not alone in this. And you are not falling.

    -You’re just learning what it means to love deep—without fear.